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Black History Year (w/ Bob the Drag Queen)

Friday, July 10, 2020
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About this Episode

"I was just looking for butthole. And then wrapped around the butthole was a really nice, young, Jewish man."

Bob the Drag Queen (winner of RuPaul's Drag Race S8) chats about systematic racism, his two partners, and the confusing social construct of dating, and so much more. Plus, Bob shares some wildly embarrassing hookup stories involving race chasers, and offers Nicole a very interesting dating proposition.

For more drag queens on Why Won't You Date Me, check out our episode playlist on Spotify: https://spoti.fi/3fg8Epu

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Nicole Byer

Nicole Byer is an actress, comedian, and writer. She hosts the Netflix baking show "Nailed It" and has a sitcom loosely based on her life streaming on Facebook Watch, "Loosely Exactly Nicole." She hosts the podcast "Why Won't You Date Me" and recently starred on the short-lived Fox sketch show "Party Over Here." You've also seen her on MTV's "Girl Code," "30 Rock," "Late Night with Jimmy Fallon," "Mike and Dave Need Wedding Dates," "@Midnight," Adult Swim, "Chelsea Lately," "Transparent," and "Lady Dynamite." She co-wrote and starred in the "Pursuit of Sexiness," which Variety named a web series to watch and was featured as a Time Out LA comic to watch in 2015. She’s also been featured in Cosmopolitan, Ladies Home Journal, Elle, and Ebony.

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