How to Manifest your Dream Man (w/ Alaska Thunderfuck)

Friday, March 12, 2021

About this Episode

Drag queen Alaska Thunderfuck (RuPaul's Drag Race S5, winner of Drag Race All Stars S2) joins Nicole to discuss what it was like to date another drag queen, how to manifest your dream man, their unexpected dating life after Drag Race, and some nightmare customer service stories. Plus, Nicole recounts the time she performed sketch comedy to Dolly Parton.

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Nicole Byer

Nicole Byer is an actress, comedian, and writer. She hosts the Netflix baking show "Nailed It" and has a sitcom loosely based on her life streaming on Facebook Watch, "Loosely Exactly Nicole." She hosts the podcast "Why Won't You Date Me" and recently starred on the short-lived Fox sketch show "Party Over Here." You've also seen her on MTV's "Girl Code," "30 Rock," "Late Night with Jimmy Fallon," "Mike and Dave Need Wedding Dates," "@Midnight," Adult Swim, "Chelsea Lately," "Transparent," and "Lady Dynamite." She co-wrote and starred in the "Pursuit of Sexiness," which Variety named a web series to watch and was featured as a Time Out LA comic to watch in 2015. She’s also been featured in Cosmopolitan, Ladies Home Journal, Elle, and Ebony.

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